Archive | March 2015

Value: Integrity

78653358_sml‘I’ is for Integrity according to Relationship Free.

Tina Fey says “Do what you want and don’t care if anyone cares” and that is a philosophy Relationship Free respects. A lot of the time people appear to take on external validation instead of looking within to seek peace and happiness.

When we act with integrity, we are more likely to feel happy and fulfilled. Again, Relationship Free values honesty and integrity in the highest forms. We act for the greater good or we don’t take action. We share for the greater good, or we don’t share. We believe that acting with integrity throughout all our sessions and business dealings is what enables us to produce consistently.

Integrity seems to mean different things to different people and is used accordingly. The basic meaning remains the same: “do what you say you’ll do!” One of the best descriptions of integrity is by Barbara De Angelis who makes it really clear where she says: “Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe”.

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Value: Purpose

200260581-001Another of Relationship Free’s core values starting with ‘P’ is Purpose.

Purpose is essential to the team at Relationship Free because without it – we all think we’d stay in bed with a bucket of ice cream … every single day! We live and breathe by Vince
Lombardi’s quote: “The greatest accomplishment is not in never
falling, but in rising again after you fall” and put our own spin on it by saying “It’s not what happens to you or what you experience, it’s what you do with the lessons that matters the most”.

Our purpose is to share our experiences with other people. Share our lessons. Share our strength. Share what’s worked in our journeys to help other people fast-track their recoveries from relationship pain or at times when they’ve found themselves without purpose and felt quite lost in the process.

Friedrich Nietzsche also inspires us with his quote: “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how”. We agree – jump in, GO FOR IT! And you can worry about the how later, because once you take those first steps, the universe will provide a net for you that will catch you as you walk confidently
towards your destiny.

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Value: Passion


One of Relationship Free’s core values is Passion.

Passion represents the positive energy the staff at Relationship Free cherish, the positive energy we share with our clients and other stakeholders we come in contact with, and also the positive energy we enhance in others through the work that we do.

Oprah Winfrey says: “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you”. Similarly, Tony Robbins says “Where our focus goes, energy flows” – and at Relationship Free, we agree – and we want our passion to flow into everything we do.

Every single person who works at Relationship Free or with us, has a passion for sharing and helping others. Through our own experiences in dealing with failed, toxic and abusive relationship, we have discovered one of the essential ingredients to getting back on track is quickly awakening the soul by igniting the passion within.

At the moment you may not think this applies to you, but everyone has something that we’re passionate about – the adventure is going out there and discovering exactly what that is and how we can use it. When we’re passionate about something, it doesn’t matter what other people think of it, we will love it the same regardless.

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Values are so important in a relationship


I can’t deal with someone wanting to take a relationship backward or needing space or cheating on you. Taylor Swift

When clients come to me in a lot of pain because their partner has done something or is doing something that they don’t like, it is often because what their partner has done or is doing, hasn’t aligned with their values.

Not many people consciously stop to think before getting into a relationship with someone whether or not their values align. It’s physical attraction, plus chemistry, plus communication and BAM!

Perfect, right? Not when these kind of fall outs happen.

So how can you be sure your partner’s values align with yours?

Find out here!

Are you toxic?

126813382_smlMany people come to me about their toxic or abusive relationship to see if I can help them leave or fix it. What a lot of them don’t ask is if it’s really their partner or if it’s them who is toxic. Often we are so busy blaming things and judging other people that we forget to take a moment to stop and look at ourselves.

If you think you’re in a toxic relationship right now, this blog is for you – because the first thing you need to do, before analysing too much about the other person, is to check in with yourself. Ask yourself: Is the relationship I have with myself toxic? Because if it is, you are going to be toxic to people around you and also encourage toxic people into your life. It’s only when we truly care for ourselves and value ourselves that we can find and maintain consistently healthy relationships all throughout our lives.

Today Relationship Free checks in to help you decide if the relationship you have with yourself is toxic and what you can do about it. Read the full article here.

How to turn down the voice of the inner critic


There is nothing worse than betraying yourself. Oprah

Have you ever noticed while being critical of others, your own journey stops? Sometimes we can
focus on other people’s faults to our own fault – and it can be something small and ridiculous we won’t let go of. For example, imagine you had the perfect partner – they fit in with the family, they treat you well with your best interests at heart … but … they snore. So you’re thinking of leaving them because you need your rest. It sounds ridiculous but in actual fact, it would appear not many people have a partner who doesn’t come without a even the smallest “but”. Here’s the thing we need to remember: no one is perfect and it is impossible to accept those small “but”s.

So how can you drop this critical mindset to embrace your journey? Find out here!

All about Relationship Free


Saving long term relationships, putting the spark back in marriages, helping people break free of toxic relationships and getting people excited about being single and living life again is all in a day’s work at Relationship Free. Don’t let the name fool you – every day we work to help people decide who is the best partner for them, how to save a current relationship or marriage – even after infidelity, and finding yourself again.

We get to the core of the issue and work to resolve underlying issues while offering tools to correct the current issue causing people pain.

What makes us different?

Generally when we’re looking outside a relationship for someone else, or we’re feeling controlled in an abusive relationship, or we’re bordering on leaving the relationship we’ve been in for a long time or a partner we chose to marry, we may be excited by the idea of some freedom. What if we told you that you don’t need to look too far? Relationship Free helps clients find the freedom within to be your best self and work towards resolving unconscious issues, cycles and patterns that are bringing your relationships down or leading you to unhealthy relationships. Our tagline is “Find the freedom within to be your best self”.

What makes us awesome?

We don’t judge! Client after client we receive feedback at the end of a call telling us how great we were because despite whatever information may be disclosed we withhold judgement. A lot of people find it difficult to get the most out of therapy and counselling because of the fear holding them back from being completely open and honest during their session. Relationship Free quickly builds rapport and works to resolve the problem and empower the client at the same time as making them feel better about things. Where there’s a fork in the road, we cut through and help people decide the best path to take for them and equip them with the steps to follow through with it.

What makes us special?

You never know when that moment will come up in life where you need support around your relationship and everywhere you turn you feel alone, abandoned and as though either decision is a loss or someone will get hurt. Sarah Webb is a relationship coach and expert equipped to handle even the trickiest relationship traumas and issues with a knowledge and her own experiences extending well beyond life coaching. “I’ve been in toxic relationships, I ended up in a relationship where I was abused in every way possible, so badly I thought I’d never escape – and I didn’t want to leave at the time – that man tried to take my life three times. I survived and now I want to help others through it and offer an alternative to traditional therapy – just because you feel as though you may be going insane, doesn’t mean you are,” Sarah says.

What do we believe?

Every issue has a fundamental underlying issue that comes back to us. We each have the power within to shift and change this and to offer ourselves the freedom from the problem we seek. At times when we are stuck, cycles are repeating or patterns are occurring, it’s because these underlying issues are often unresolved. Relationship Free cuts through this and works to develop the steps and offer support to strengthen you in your journey. We help men, women, married couples, singles and everything in between – our work is tailored for the individual.

Where can you find us?

Our website is at – and you can book your appointment online. You can also find Relationship Free on Facebook. Spread the word – it could save a marriage, a relationship or even a person.

How to use your internal critic to enhance confidence


Be careful how you are talking about yourself because you are listening. Lisa M. Hayes

Have you noticed how your internal critic can chime in at really bad times? For example, someone gives you negative feedback and then you hear “I’m not good enough” or “You’re stupid – if you can’t do it right, maybe you shouldn’t do it” … that inner voice can be a real pain in the arse at times. Right when we’re feeling bad already, that inner voice can attach meaning and make things even worse, meanwhile your confidence takes a beating!

To learn more about what Relationship Free thinks you can do to turn your internal critic around to enhance your confidence, click here.

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