Archive | April 2015

100% Self Love: The roadmap to the love and life you desire

3D book coverI’ve got some exciting news to share with you!

Through my new business, Relationship Free, I am preparing to release my first eBook via It’s called 100% Self Love: the roadmap to the love and life you desire.

It shares vital information and includes a series of activities to help readers learn to love and trust themselves – before others. And you can pre-order your copy now!

Many of you know the journey I have been on over the past couple of years and this book shares all the lessons I have taken from toxic and abusive relationships to put myself back together quickly and effectively. It’s what I’ve used to help myself and I know it will be greatly beneficial to my readers as well.

This book is perfect for men and women who are looking to develop a healthy relationship with themselves but aren’t sure where to start. It’s the greatest guide to developing the foundation for relationships with other people and to maintaining a sense of self, including a healthy self esteem and self worth, in all situations.

Want to know more? Here’s the description!

Are you someone who finds yourself latching onto relationships? Frequently hitting the dating treadmill only to get hurt or let down again and again?

Do you dread being on your own?

Are you anxious that your partner will leave you?

Is validation from others more important than what YOU think?

Do you depend on people for support, love, affection, attention and everything in between?

What if you knew the most fulfilling relationship you can have is available to you all the time? That’s right, everything you need – your one-stop-shop for support, love and attention – is available to you right now?

It’s true – the one person you need to love unconditionally and have love you in return, and who you need to trust completely, is the person staring back at you in the mirror.

So when was the last time that you said “I love you” to yourself?

When was the last time that you demonstrated that love?

Think about yourself today. Right now. As a whole being. Do you love yourself?

If there was even a moment of hesitation or if that question made you feel uncomfortable – then this book is for you!

Banish your abandonment complex, overcome co-dependence, forget your insecurities, stop looking for love in the wrong places, leave that toxic person, make a faster recovery following narcissistic abuse, cut the abuse cycle … Relationship Free takes you on a journey to discover your true, authentic self, which may enable you to fall into the deepest unconditional love you will ever experience.

A love you can trust.
A love that will never leave you.

100% Self Love helps you find and understand yourself, enhance confidence and self trust as you continue your journey through life. With practical activities throughout, you’ll start building the foundation for the most important relationship of your entire life – one that is often overlooked – the relationship you have with yourself.

100% Self Love not only ensures that you have a great relationship with yourself, but that it starts and is maintained as a healthy relationship. The love you are about to discover is the promised unconditional love you’ve always desired.

It’s not a fairytale and there’s no chance of a soul-crushing end.

Get set to transform your heart.

Get set for 100% Self Love!

3D book coverIf you have questions, suggestions or feedback – contact me here.


Help! I’m dating someone I’m not into

QandA-man-451583291-smlDear Sarah,

I’m in a relationship with someone I’m not really into – but I don’t want to leave because I’m 35, we’ve been together for five years now and it’s the time when I should be settling down – not starting again. Plus, I feel sorry for my girlfriend, she’s very quiet and I don’t think she’ll meet someone else easily.

What should I do? Pete.

This isn’t an unusual question to appear in my inbox at the moment. People who are trying to stay in a relationship that isn’t making themselves happy but not entirely sure what to do – should they stay or should they go?

There are lots of things you can do, but remember: as long as you’re with the wrong person, you’re not creating the space you need to be with the right person.

Find out Relationship Free’s top three suggestions for next steps.

Thank you for being my “friend” – the people we love on Facebook

friends_smlWhile we acknowledge toxic people on our Facebook to help us decide how we can create the best space for us, it’s important to also acknowledge the people we love and adore. Social Media isn’t all bad – it just depends what space you want to create. This week Relationship Free looks at how you can create the healthiest online space for you!

The entrepreneur
My Facebook is full of these amazing people who each are trying to create different things and are not only bright and positive themselves, but they encourage their fellow entrepreneurs – which works well for me! These are the cheerleaders you need in your life if you’re starting your own business or looking for some positive energy on a cloudy day.

The optimist
You know the one – they’re always posting the latest positive meme or information about the next speaker event you should attend. They have their finger on the pulse with everything vibrant, hip, happening and exciting that’s coming your way. They’re the first to invite you to the next social gathering that’s coming up – there’s always room and space for you. These are the dreamers and the believers who lift you up.


Quit being a Facebook bitch! Are you toxic to the digital space?


Don’t let toxic people infect you with the fear of giving and receiving one of the most powerful forces in this world… LOVE! Yvonne Pierre

With all different people and personalities on social media, it’s not surprising that some people are more toxic than others. However, some toxic behaviours that are unacceptable in reality are now becoming more and more common in these digital settings. Some of these behaviours may be things you do to certain people on your digital channels.

Everyone decides who joins their digital space differently. However, if you’ve invited someone into your circle who you don’t actually enjoy spending time with you receiving information from – that is not just toxic for the other person, but it is also toxic for you and can hurt your self esteem by causing you to think negatively every time they pop up in your feed.

First, it’s important to acknowledge, if it’s no longer fun – it’s toxic. If you’re tired or drained after cruising through your Facebook feed, it’s fair to say you have toxic people in your social circle and it’s time to re-evaluate. Remind yourself of this like a mantra: quality not quantity – it will be essential to your wellbeing.

The toxic behaviours which I’m exposing today to draw consciousness to include:

Social exclusion

I don’t know why people do this because if you ask me, it just makes them look like a complete jerk –but if you look at some feeds you’ll notice someone says a comment and a series of people respond to it. You like it and the comment goes away. The person who is hosting the conversation (aka posted the comment) then writes on it again and it appears in your feed. You notice they went back through and acknowledged every single comment on their post with a like or reply except for ONE person! Another example of this kind of social exclusion is scrolling down someone’s wall and you notice someone has asked them a question – say they want to meet up to reunite after years apart because they’re in the neighbourhood, or they want a hand with something – and the person they’re trying to communicate with didn’t acknowledge it, but a post made by other people on either side of that person’s comment has their undivided attention… It’s just RUDE! Sure, maybe they missed that one comment, but it appears unlikely if they’re particularly active before and after it.

OK, so if this has happened to you – I recommend deleting the person who ignored you because that is not a friend, in any sense of the word.

My digital rule of thumb is: if I have time for you and put energy into responding to something, I’d appreciate the same courtesy from people who I invite into my social circle.

The shameless pessimist

Have you got a constantly negative friend? They’re always down on this, that and the other and if they’re not down on that, they’re down on something you say? It’s like you’re Pooh Bear and they’re Eeor.

Read more here.

Value: Awareness


Relationship Free values awareness.

We recognise and attribute this value as the primary catalyst for change and the key to growth. Dr Phil says “We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge” and this is at the forefront of all Relationship Free products and services. It is only once we see something exactly for what it is that we can make an informed decision as to whether or not we want to change it. Sometimes it’s our own denial that distorts things, sometimes it’s another person’s manipulation. Dr Phil also says “Awareness without action is worthless” – in order to make our awareness valuable we need to make a decision on what we are now aware of, and take action. This sentiment was also felt by Aristotle who says “The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.”

Self awareness feeds into this, as well as the awareness of others. Relationship Free encourages all clients to be self aware, because we realise something we want or need to change that we can truly be our best. Abraham Maslow says “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” Meanwhile, people all around us are losing consciousness of others, becoming more judgemental, critical and isolated by social media and online forums. This unawareness is destroying people’s ability to experience and feel empathy. Nathaniel Branden says “The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.” When Mr Branden talks about this acceptance, it’s not just our own acceptance of the change that needs to occur but it is the acceptance of others that allows for change and growth to take place for an individual. We recognise if someone is in an environment where they are chastised for change, growth and development then their awareness of their environment will first be more critical than the awareness of themselves. Sometimes until we are in the right environment, we can’t make change happen as efficiently as we usually can, if at all.

Read more here

Value: Courage

IMG_0232Courage is a very important value at Relationship Free.

Courage offers the right amount of energy to push through change by inspiring resilience, persistence and confidence – no matter how difficult it is. “All progress takes place outside the comfort zone,” according to Michael John Bobak. That’s where Relationship Free stands out – we dare to be different, we’re open with our mistakes and we want to keep that authentic-human energy through everything we do. We don’t care for the squeaky-clean over-branded perfect image. No one and nothing is perfect – let’s embrace that! We want to show how imperfect love, whether it’s the love you have for yourself or the love you share in a partnership with someone else – can be perfect for you, exactly as it is! Imperfections allowed! Relationship Free dares to be different and we are not afraid of taking risks and chances and really stepping out of the comfort zone in order to genuinely help people. Once again, Oprah says it well when she says: “You’ve got to follow your passion. You’ve got to figure out what it is you love–who you really are. And have the courage to do that. I believe that the only courage anybody ever needs is the courage to follow your own dream”.

Facing fears is never an easy thing to do and sometimes we find ourselves in a situation where it is necessary. It is when we really flex the courage muscle that we feel truly empowered. This can be seen as a theme that arises constantly throughout the Hunger Game series. Pema Chodron adds to this fantastic movie metaphor saying “Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know”. If you’ve seen patterns in your relationships that come up with multiple partners – then you would understand exactly what we’re getting at here, and it can take a lot of courage to confront it!

Read more and watch an inspiring illustrative video here!

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