The abandonment complex and how to cope with it

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I saw taillights last night, in a dream about my old life. Everybody leaves and I would expect as much from you. Gaslight Anthem

According to abandonment.net, abandonment is about loss of love itself, that crucial loss of connectedness. It often involves breakup, betrayal, aloneness.

Outofthefog.net describes it as: an irrational belief that one is imminent danger of being personally rejected, discarded or replaced.

People struggling with abandonment issues include those going through the ending of a relationship as well as searching adoptees, recently widowed, and those suffering the wounds from earlier disconnections.

Many people, men and women, have abandonment issues that may manifest during childhood but surface later in life when the person is on his or her own in the world. Their core belief is that no one likes them and those that love them will leave.

Abandonment issues may particularly flare up if you’re going through a break up, separation or divorce and are entirely alone, either physically or emotionally. This week, Happiness Weekly and Relationship Free look at abandonment and really helps you to understand what it is and how to cope. Read the full article here.

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5 responses to “The abandonment complex and how to cope with it”

  1. attheendoftheweek says :

    Reblogged this on attheendoftheweek and commented:
    A complex issue with simple yet painful feelings. We can break the chains and experience our resilience and joy again.

  2. thirdwheelinganddating says :

    How do I show someone with abandonment issues love?

    • happinessweekly says :

      That’s a good question! Unfortunately you can’t change the other person so they can see it. All you can do is act with love in the best way you know how and accept them for who they are. If the other person has abandonment issues, it is up to them to see it and correct it.

  3. Jay Gamble says :

    This article and topic make me extremely sad. I fell in love with a narcissistic woman. The passive aggressive relationship evolved into a good friend being lost. It was totally one sided, very emotionally abusive and I have some problems getting through it. Reality bites at times. I see a psychiatrist for depression, this type friend doesnt help. Cut the ties that bind you. I most likely get a half hearted response/ apology. Im done with it. I pray for peace.

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