The abandonment complex and how to cope with it
I saw taillights last night, in a dream about my old life. Everybody leaves and I would expect as much from you. Gaslight Anthem
According to abandonment.net, abandonment is about loss of love itself, that crucial loss of connectedness. It often involves breakup, betrayal, aloneness.
Outofthefog.net describes it as: an irrational belief that one is imminent danger of being personally rejected, discarded or replaced.
People struggling with abandonment issues include those going through the ending of a relationship as well as searching adoptees, recently widowed, and those suffering the wounds from earlier disconnections.
Many people, men and women, have abandonment issues that may manifest during childhood but surface later in life when the person is on his or her own in the world. Their core belief is that no one likes them and those that love them will leave.
Abandonment issues may particularly flare up if you’re going through a break up, separation or divorce and are entirely alone, either physically or emotionally. This week, Happiness Weekly and Relationship Free look at abandonment and really helps you to understand what it is and how to cope. Read the full article here.
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