Let go of frustration with yourself
Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment. Dale Carnegie
One of the most self-destructive feelings we can have is frustration – particularly if it has been around for a while about the same issue. Unfortunately there’s no quick fix to this – especially it involves falling out of love with someone from a previous relationship, generally it’s faster to fall in love than to forget someone.
So, while you’re dealing with these feelings for someone you feel you should be over, how can you at least let go of this frustration with yourself?
Change your perception – Try to see the end of a relationship as a lucky escape and an opportunity for you to jet ahead (even if it hurts)
Cry – It will release your negative feelings and the harmful chemicals hat build up in your body due to stress
Distract yourself – Channel your discontent into an immediate positive action e.g. get involved with charity work
Better yourself – Take time to better yourself. Learn a new skill, avoid dwelling on the skills you never mastered
Count your blessings –Be aware of the present moment and the things you do have control over
Think how far you’ve come – List your accomplishments and work towards building on them. You will have to let go of the discontentment eventually to make space for this self-satisfaction
Challenge yourself – Ask yourself what you miss about that person or thing. Keep questioning it until you get to the bottom of it
Exercise – It’ll decrease stress hormones and increase happy endorphins
Express yourself – Find a creative outlet: blog or paint your frustration away
Grieve – Allow yourself to feel it fully and grieve completely
Vent – Enable yourself to rant about it for a certain period of time before you confront anyone to diffuse hostility and plan a rational confrontation
Visualise – Imagine the anger melting away as an act of kindness to yourself
Take responsibility – Take back the power by taking any responsibility that you can. Focus on what you could have done better
Make a decision – You have three options: Remove yourself from the situation, change it or accept it. Each option will create happiness … holding onto anger/bitterness/resentment/frustration never will
Learn from it – Identify what you learnt from the experience
Be realistic – Remember the good and the bad, exactly as it was. The past is never perfect – acknowledging this may minimise your sense of loss
Let go – Loving yourself means letting go.
Shift your focus – Be aware of when you begin thinking about it, so you can shift your thought process to something more pleasant: like a passion or hobby.
Imagine life 10 years from now – Will this person or issue still be affecting you then? Why or why not?
Take back your control – Make your feelings a decision.